Happened to have come upon this - what great advice for this upcoming year.

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.

1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on.  No, it won’t be easy.  There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.  We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.  That’s not how we’re made.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.  This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.

3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.  Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.  

4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else.  Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.  Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.  Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success.  You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.

8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us.  We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.  But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.  Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive.  But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.

10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.  You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.

11. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place.  Evaluate situations and take decisive action.  You cannot change what you refuse to confront.  Making progress involves risk.  Period!  You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.

12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.

13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.  There’s no need to rush.  If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet.  Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.  But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.

15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others doing better than you.  Concentrate on beating your own records every day.  Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.

16. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.  Ask yourself this:  “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”

17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you.  You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough.  But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past.  You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation.  So smile!  Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

18. Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart.  You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate.  Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”  Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself!  And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too.  If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.

19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway.  Just do what you know in your heart is right.

21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it.  If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.  Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.  The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.

23. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.

24. Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile.  Don’t take the easy way out.  Do something extraordinary.

25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while.  You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well.  You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears.  The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.

26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life.  When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.

27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out.  But making one person smile CAN change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  So narrow your focus.

28. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy.  One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?  Three years?  Five years?”  If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.

29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen.  Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.  If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.

30. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.  Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

Wale once said he wanted to fuck the shit outta a females aspirations. If that’s the case, then I’m tryna give your brain the best brain of your life. I want your dreams to drip down my chin and your talent to run down through my thigh. Yeah, I said it. Because the sexiest non-physical thing on a man, is his drive. And did I mention that I can work a stick? So gentlemen, if you have a dream, grab that shit by the neck or pull its hair, whatever floats your boat and show it who’s the boss. Cuz its not just those arms that we think are sexy, it’s the way you throw that football with them. We want your hands all over us, because of the business plans you write with them. And we’re undressing you with our eyes, the ambitious girl you see in us. Now how about your dreams, and my dreams go have some sex. No quickies, please.

Disclaimer: I did not write this article and in no way do I claim any rights to it. Just an interesting read I found online. If you know the author, please let me know and I will credit accordingly. I believe this is only part of the article:

You know how men want a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets? Well, bitches like me want our nice guys to be assholes … in bed. Yah I said it.

I don’t mean cheat, lie, and manipulate us under the covers. I don’t even mean punch, kick, or slap us while we’re doing the deed. Actually, I take that last part back lol. I just mean a lil’ man handling ain’t never hurt nobody.

You can kiss me hello, open doors for me, pull out my chair, and hold my hand in public. But behind closed doors? I want you to bite my shoulder, hold my wrist down, push me up against the wall, and put your hands around my neck and apply just the slightest bit of pressure. Yes, I want you to choke me. Tell me you love me when we say good-bye, tell me how beautiful I look in the morning, and say thank-you when I pack you lunch. So that on a really good night? I’ll let you get away with saying, “You like that bitch?”

Ooh no she didn’t.

Ooh yes I did. Because while real women appreciate nice guys, real women don’t want pushovers … especially in bed. Because strong women still want to be put in their place once in while. And one of these whiles is during sex. Because if I really wanted to fuck a bitch, I’d fuck one of my hot ass girlfriends.

Disclaimer: I did not write this article and in no way do I claim any rights to it. Just an interesting read I found online. If you know the author, please let me know and I will credit accordingly. I believe this is only part of the article:

Just a few days ago a friend told me that she and her boyfriend were having a “moment” and she said she was crazy herself. To which he replied, “The only time I think you’re crazy is when you talk about being crazy.” A light bulb went off in my head and then I secretly vowed to never let her break up with him even if it meant hand cuffing her to his bed post … if they haven’t tried that one out already lol.
The truth is, nothing is an issue UNLESS YOU MAKE IT AN ISSUE. I never in a million years thought I’d ever say this but, “Over thinkers of the world (myself included) JUST STOP IT. STOP IT RIGHT NOW,“ ‘cuz you’re ruining it for yourself!
Boy is crazy over girl. Girl is crazy over boy. They talk to each other on the phone, and spend time with each other. The end right?
Of course not. It’s usually more like:

Boy is crazy over girl. Girl is crazy over boy. They talk to each other on the phone and then one day girl doesn’t get a phone call from boy and starts spazzing out thinking that he doesn’t like her anymore but that’s ‘cuz boy spent 3 days straight with her and thinks he saw his life flash right before his very eyes. So now they’re both scared and confused but still crazy over each other and think that the answer is to walk away when neither of them want that but neither of them know what the fuck to do and can’t figure out what went wrong … BECAUSE NOTHING WENT WRONG UNTIL THEY STARTED THINKING TOO MUCH ABOUT SHIT!
Hi.
Breathe.
Remember that one song that went, “Don’t start no shit, won’t be no shit”? Stop starting shit with yourself, it’s self destructive. Not to mention CRAZY.

Found this article in ELLE Singapore written by a guy named Kenneth Tan. Both my boyfriend and I found it hilarious as it is true in many aspects. Hope most of you will enjoy this short read as we did :)

I love to shop. I have no qualms about heading to a mall and spending a few hours trying on stuff before making a few purchases. New clothes to wear, sparkling new gadgets to play with; what’s there not to like about shopping? So when you hear men say they hate shopping, what we’re really saying is: We hate shopping with women. The difference between the way men and women shop is the very same difference between murder and manslaughter - it’s all about intent. When we shop we do so with a view to purchasing something. It’s not true that we don’t window-shop; but we browse a specific range of items. Women, however, will look at everything… And most of the time, end up buying nothing.

Fact is, 80 per cent of consumers are women. But what they buy can seem so random. I once accompanied a friend to buy a “cocktail dress for a wedding”, only for her to head home three hours later - with beachwear. It’s akin to Columbus setting out to discover Asia but finding America instead.

Men follow a process of elimination when shopping. If I discount something from my search - say, black-coloured items - I will not browse racks with such items. A women on the other hand, may have declared “no black” but will thumb through racks of said items and try them.

WOMAN: “I love this dress! But my New Year’s resolution is not to buy any more black stuff.”
MAN: “Then don’t buy it.”
WOMAN: “But its so nice. And they only have this in black.”
MAN: “Buy it then.”
WOMAN: “But you know I have so many black clothes already…”

This will carry on for at least five minutes, or until we excuse ourselves to huddle with the other men at the seats by the shoe section. Our presence wouldn’t have mattered. Women don’t actually need men to persuade them one way or another; whatever we say doesn’t matter. Their decision-making process is an internal monologue in which they resolve a dilemma that shouldn’t have arisen in the first place. Eventually, they’ll buy the item. Or not - in which case, they’ll repeat the process in another store. This also explains the dozens of shoes and clothes they buy, and never wear.

It’s frustrating to men because it just isn’t logical. Shopping should be a linear process. We filter and focus, and if any research needs to be done, it’s not done at the store wasting time with clueless staff - but in the comfort of our homes on the Internet. Preferably with a beer in hand. When we have something that matches what we want, then it’s a matter of trying it out, if possible. If we shop by ourselves or with other men, we’re in and out with the purchase in 10 minutes flat.

To their credit, none of the women I’ve dated have ever insisted that I pick up their shopping tab. Either they’re ELLE readers or I’m incredibly dense. And if it’s true that time is money, I should own a bungalow at Sentosa Cove by now. Yet, men can’t live without women - and that’s why, despite all the whining, the pleading and then the crying, we still go shopping with you. After all, women are beautiful, sensitive, lovable, generous souls.